Married at First Sight

Hmm,
siapa agaknya yang tengok rancangan ni? Bagi saya first season memang best tapi second season ni nampak sangat couples tak berapa ngam. Tengok finale dia weekend lepas, saya sebenarnya terkejut juga dua couples tu nak stay married.

Okay lah yang Jess dengan Ryan tu okaylah, bolehla nampak macam in love gitu tapi yang lain tu macam lebih sesuai berkawan saja. Sorry. Pastu bila geram dan tak puas hati, saya pun Googled la…

Hmmm dua dua couples yang chose to stay married tu, berpecah belah jua siap ada yang dikenakan restraining order towards their ex partner. Huyooo.

And then, I googled la couples season lepas yang pasal Courtney and Jason and Dough and Jamie. Diorang masih stay together and then I read and read more about Ryan, Jess, Jacylin and Ry hmmm even Davina and ex partner dia… bergaduh on the follow up program, the reunion or 6 months after (terus takde rasa nak tengok)… tapi the ladies, biasanya berjaya membentuk ally yang kuat.

Macam macam. Marriage is risky, yes but once we are in it, I guess everyone needs to work hard to make it work. It’s a team. Tak kisahlah how the marriage started, kita pilih ke, kena atur ke. Kan kan but that is the theoretical me speaking, what do I know about marriage.

Married at first sight ni, pasangannya ditentukan oleh pakar-pakar. Orang yang nak participate perlulah faham dan betul niat nak berkahwin, then berharaplah pada pakar tu untuk mencarikan partner yang sesuai. Risky kan. Tapi dah setuju to be in. And then, they get married and stay together (or figure out how are they going to be together) for 6 weeks, and then they have to decide whether or not they want to stay married or get divorce…

Season 1. Jamie-Doug, Monet - Vaughn and Jason-Courtney

Season 1.
Jamie-Doug, Monet – Vaughn and Jason-Courtney

season 2 Jess-ryan, Davina-Sean and Jacylin and Ry

season 2
Jess-ryan, Davina-Sean and Jacylin and Ry

#sayaaishah!

Haha, sebelum balik cuti, saya nak ambil peluang membebel beberapa ratus patah perkataan.

Dua tiga hari lepas heboh pasal si sayazahra tu mengeluh macam-macam. Truthfully, saya tak tengok pun video dia sebab risau sakit hati. Tapi kawan-kawan ada yang tolong rumuskan dan bagi soalan-soalan yang cukup membangkitkan rasa lemas… lemas kenapa, lemas sebab aduhai.. adik… kenapa kamu begitu sekali mengaduh ngaduh.

Saya cuma nak tulis pengalaman saya je.

1. 2004 saya grad in July, belum grad dah dapat kerja kerani, gaji RM800, masa ni saya menumpang rumah pacik di Ampang. Saya kerja di Cheras, hari-hari naik lrt, dan kemudian naik bas. Saya terbaca zahra kata terpaksa naik lrt? Aduhai. Itu satu kemudahan, bagi orang lain satu kenikmatan, kenapa bagi kamu terpaksa? Tahun 2004, saya spent sebulan RM100 untuk transportation. Hujung minggu keluar ke KL, dalam RM50 sekali keluar dan hari-hari beli makanan untuk seminggu, belanja less than RM150. Masa ni saya dah start bayar PTPTN, masa ni kena beratur kat BSN nak bayar ni tau.

2. 2005, saya berhenti kerja sebab boss nak tutup bisnes dia, sebelum berhenti tu, rasanya few months saya tak dapat gaji. Tapi saya gigihkan juga sebab banyak sangat saya belajar. Belajar manage office, manage orang… manage resources, jawab telefon, filing, cleaning, typing etc. Sampailah in May saya dapat kerja wayang dekat rumah pacik barulah rasa selesa sikit. Masa ni dah start contribute untuk sewa bulanan rumah pacik ni.

3. Last in August 2005, saya dapat kerja ni (alhamdulillah). So, masih lagi berulang alik ke Putrajaya dari Ampang, naik lrt, pepagi turun di Sg Besi then tumpang kawan ke pejabat. Sampailah kena gi kursus in Jan 2006, memang hari-hari saya guna public transport. Pacik kata ‘along pegi keje, bau wangi… balik dah macam amoi niaga kat Pasar..’

4. Abis kursus in Jun 2006, saya menyewa dengan kawan2 di flat jer… kongsi bilik lagi. Hari-hari naik bas gi keje, nak memandu tak reti, lesen pun takde. Pastu slow-slow ambil lesen sampailah beli kereta sendiri in November 2007. Tengok la tu… jarak dari lepas grad sampai ke beli kereta, almost four years…

5. Menyewa lagi, rasanya hampir 5 biji rumah sewa, sampailah berjaya duduk di rumah sendiri. Rumah sendiri saya beli in 2010. Alhamdulillah.

Semuanya atas diri sendiri, nak lihat hidup dan cabaran ni dari sudut yang mana. Perkuatkanlah diri sendiri, dengan persekitaran. Saya akui, sekarang ni terlalu banyak cabaran, dengan pesatnya sosial media… semua pun mudah disebar-sebarkan, cuma yang betul atau tak, itu kita tak tahu. Kongsilah yang sahih, yang baik yang benar…

Perkara ni tak dapat saya harungi… kalau tak ada kawan-kawan di sisi, ibu ayah hanya mampu mendoakan, mereka tidak akan termampu untuk menyediakan segalanya untuk kita. They need a rest too. Janganlah mengeluh.. . Bersyukurlah!

Selamat hari raya :)

Selamat Hari Raya ;)

Eh, dah nak raya dah!

Esok saya akan start bercuti dan balik kampung. :) Saya harap semua kita akan beraya dengan tenang, aman, dan gembira. Tapi jangan lupa, ingatlah ahli keluarga yang telah meninggalkan kita.

Berhari raya, kalau boleh biarlah bersederhana, *cakap je* Jangan membazir, kalau beli baju pastikan semua dipakai, kuih raya, makan semua… juadah, masak elok-elok, cukup… jangan berlebih nanti tak elok, basi pulak gitu. Kalau nak bagi duit raya, bagi yang termampu saja, jangan nak jaga standard sangat… Yang penting ikhlas. Zakat fitrah jangan dilupa, tak pe kalau ayah dah bayarkan, kalau jumpa kaunter, bayarkan jugaklah untuk diri sendiri (self reminder).

Apa apa pun, saya nak mohon maaf, zahir dan batin sekiranya pernah melukakan, menyakitkan …. kadang-kadang secara tak sedar, atau sedar… manusia memang macam tu.

So, selamat hari raya, berhati-hati di jalan raya. :)

Beli tudung

Tadi lepas meeting, sempat ajak P.A Boss keluar kejap pergi jenguk Festival Ramadhan dekat depan POJ. Tujuannya nak belikan tudung nak bagi hadiah dekat bibik kawan saya yang akan balik Indonesia for good this Saturday.

Kawan saya kata, baiknya lah. Belikan tudung untuk bibik. Padahal bukan bibik saya pun. Hihi. Tapi bibik ni baik dengan saya, selalu kalau kata nak pergi rumah kawan saya ni mesti dia tanya Aishah nak makan apa. :) Ari tu saya cakap, megi pun okay bibik. Bila saya sampai, dia dah siapkan megi. Ari tu saya pun pernah masakkan dia mee goreng.

Malam ni saya akan pergi berbuka kat rumah kawan saya ni. Anak2 dia pun okay je walaupun yang bongsu tu nakal betul sampai saya pun berdebar tengok dia panjat sana sini, turun naik tangga etc.

Tadi saya beli tudung kat kedai Mak si Milla AF tu. Hihi. Sembang-sembang rupanya pernah berjiran kat Puchong, satu taman lagi. Haha. Ceritalah yang saya selalu gi makan kat Embun Urai tu. Beli dua helai tudung kat situ then, beli inai.

Okaylah. That would be all. :)

Soul sisters

Yes, we have friends, close friends and even bffs but to have soul sisters, is the most gratifying of all, at least for me.

I can name few friends that would always understand me and would tell me what they thought, from their point of views, and they focus on saying the right things (things I NEED to hear) than the things that I want to hear.

Like this conversation of A, B and C.

A : Kenapa setiap kali, I je yang kena? I selalu jadi mangsa
B : Takpe, tak salah buat bodoh je, Allah kan ada
C : U je rasa you yang selalu kena. U je rasa macam tu, sebenarnya semua orang ada ujian masing-masing.
A : I penat lah
B : Orang happy tengok kita jatuh
C : Bentuk ujian tu beza-beza, bahagia, berjaya buat jahat kat orang tu pun ujian sebenarnya, cuma dia tak sedar. Kalau kita duk mengenang nasib, memang kita rasa, kitalah yang paling kuat diuji. Selalu tertanya-tanya, why me? I pun selalu fikir gitu, tapi kita kena kuatkan diri kita sendiri

Most of us are living far away from our family, some had lost fathers, some had lost mothers and friends are the closest support system that we have. I don’t think that at this age we need to turn to our father to help us. I always hope that I could only give good news to my father.

:)

Weekend lepas

My brothers and sisters were at my house on Saturday, together with my father. It’s a pleasure to have them around.

I cooked butter rice and then forget the fact that I have no evaporated milk to complete the rice, so what I did was mix my Anlene to the rice haha. Lucky me it turned out great, nobody noticed. I think they didn’t even know what’s inside the perfectly cooked (ehem) rice except for me and my SIL.

On the other hand, my brother was thinking of having Kenny Rogers chicken but I guessed it’s not our luck because the branch in Alamanda was closed for renovation, so I went to get some Ayam Golek from a stall near Gate 1. It tasted great and quite cheap, RM18 for whole chicken. I thought it was RM20 last year. :)

Then, I prepared some sambal eggs which Father loves so much, it’s such a delightful thing to see him eat that. :)

Then, my brother Firdaus and his wife brought some chicken curry to complete our dishes that day. Anyway, I did prepare a pot of chicken curry and since my brother’s mother in law had prepared curry too, I thought of keeping my curry for sahur. :) Sebenarnya I risau kari I tak sesedap yang mak mentua Firdaus masak. My curry turned out great and very thick, the way I love it :)

And, no photo of the day because I was too rushing in doing all cooking. Can’t believe I prepared all the dishes! :) Proud of myself!

Alhamdulillah, for having the chance to be with my family. Can’t wait to come home for raya :)

P.s ; Need to remind my brother to book some chicken for raya usage.

Sumbangan

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This year the Kelab at the office planned a Buka Puasa with Anak2 Yatim and they had displayed 46 stickers of wishes from the kids. Our association decided to contribute for three kids and after approval on how much we could spend, I volunteered to be the shopper. Ehem, it’s not a task at all. I like shopping, and finding the best deal!

I hope they liked what we’ve (I’ve) purchased, (even curated) for them. But, it’s  quite a challenging task to buy clothes based on their age, not the exact size, but I really hope that their wishes are fulfilled.

Can’t wait to see them for buka puasa this Friday, but most of all, can’t wait to be home for buka puasa tomorrow, and the day after, and on weekend, when my family planned to be here for the long weekend.

InsyaAllah.

:)